Pectoral sandpipers remind us that reproducing is a brutal competition, tiring too:
You fly more than 100 miles for love. You get rejected. You fly another 100 miles. Another rejection. And another.
That’s the high-flying but futile sex life of the male pectoral sandpiper looking for love in northernmost Alaska, according to a new study.
Some males are more persistent than others. Researchers tracked one desperate small shorebird that logged more than 8,100 miles (13,045 kilometers) in two dozen different hook-up attempts over a frenetic four weeks.
“They’re definitely trying hard to flirt and court,” said biologist Bart Kempenaers of the Max Planck Institute for Ornithology in Germany . “They are not particularly successful most of them. Failed Don Juans mostly.”
The cold reality is that most of these birds will not reproduce. They will die without passing on their genetic material.
In prehistoric times the ratio of reproduction between female and male was 17-1. The advent of agriculture and wealth accumulation improved the ration, but it’s estimated that throughout all time no more than 40% if men reproduced.
Reproduction may not be a top priority for you as a teenager or 20-something, but it probably will be in your 30s and 40s. The way to find a mate in Western societies that doesn’t rely on luck and social connections is game. Game isn’t a secret system, it’s the modern name for the courtship ritual that has been around for millennia.
While the core principles at play haven’t changed, the environment has shifted dramatically. Just the last decade has been revolutionary, heralding the commoditization of smartphone technology that provides round-the-clock dopamine hits from social media. Most of the pings received by women are from potential suitors or beta orbiters. The attention a moderately attractive woman receives today is orders of magnitude greater than any of her ancestors.
If you want to successfully navigate the sexual market place it’s in your interest to learn about game. You’ll be well served to listen to “The Past, Present, and Future of Game” podcast by my friend Roosh.
You might not think you need game, but you should still leave a comment to tell me why.