Daygame by Tom Torero is a memoir of world-class seduction, centered in London. The book also serves as a guide to daygame and seduction in general, as stories of Tom’s trials and triumphs are reinforced by sections devoted to topics such as: first texts, logistics, the dating bubble, etc.
The rule of thumb for mastery is 10,000 hours devoted to developing a skill. It’s not a stretch to assume that Tom has approached 10,000 women or spent 10,000 hours approaching and dating (or some combination of the two). Since Tom is just in his early 30s, the book focuses on his development as a seducer from his late teens through the present. I found the book compelling because I could relate to many of the challenges Tom faced in high school and college. Tom slowly but surely begins to learn the fundamentals of game as the years progress and begins applying a more systematic approach to learning how to meet, attract and bed beautiful women.
The title of the book refers to Tom’s preferred method for meeting women, daygame, that is meeting women on the street, coffee shop, public transportation, etc. The meat of the book consists of over 100 short stories describing how Tom met, attracted and slept with a variety of women. As time progresses we see how Tom consistently refines his game, but even when he appears to be at his best, he’s humbled by how overconfidence can backfire. Not one to settle, Tom seeks ways to improve his skill set and his mastery of game leads to greater social confidence, new opportunities and a plethora of women.
My reactions to this book were very positive, though there were some things that were left unsaid. Tom briefly mentions that the thrill of the chase eventually became more satisfying than the sex and the reader is left to conclude that seducing beautiful women, like anything else, reaches a point of diminishing returns. Women can be a great complement to a man’s life, but never his end goal.
Tom’s story is ultimately a hopeful one, because it’s a detailed case study of how one man can totally transform himself from introvert to extrovert with patience, determination and willingness to learn from one’s mistakes. I think Daygame is an excellent read, not only as a guide to seduction, but an exceptional example of dramatic personal growth in action.
Daygame is currently only available in print form from Lulu.com with the possibility of an e-book later this year. I combined my purchase of Daygame with Daygame Nitro by Nick Krauser (review forthcoming) and found a coupon online that saved me 20% on my order.
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